Wow, I wish she'd fall off the planet and get sucked up by a big black hole and never appear again. I know it's mean. I know it's immature. But I can't help it. I resent BGs Beautiful Girls. They intimidate me, threaten me, make me feel like no guy will ever look at me. They drive home the point that no matter how hard I try, I'll never rise to the realms of Truly Beautiful.
One of my girlfriends, Mary Ellen, has a similar reaction. She calls it a "hit and run. The cruel irony of it is that I live in Los Angeles — the "beauty mecca" of the world.
Because the city is filled with wanna-be actresses and models working part-time jobs to survive, BGs turn up wherever you go — as your bank teller, your traffic-school teacher, and especially as your waitress, the profession of choice for most struggling starlets. How I long for a waitress with a beehive hairdo and a potbelly who answers to the name of Mabel or Gladys.
Instead, at the local dive of a Winchell's, the woman handing me my glazed buttermilk is a svelte siren named Christabelle. Even on a bad-hair day, Christabelle could double for Giselle Bundchen. No pocket of the city, it seems, is beauty-free.
I mean, if I wanted to torture myself, all I'd have to do is open the pages of Vogue or turn on MTV and be inundated with perfect faces and bodies. But I don't expect to be tortured every time I step outside my house. No matter where you live, there are always BGs. Every city and town has them — scads of them, unfortunately. So I know I've got company in my feelings out there. Okay, tell me the truth. No matter where you live, is there any non-BG out there who can look into her heart and honestly say she hasn't at least felt a twinge of hatred when she's staring pure perfection in the face?
Not to say I'm proud of my feelings. They make me feel small, petty. And it doesn't jibe well with my general philosophy that women need to stick together and be supportive of each other. If the Equal Rights Amendment were ratified today, I'd insist that gorgeous girls be included too.
Plus I pride myself on being a nonprejudiced person. I accept people from all races, all colors — so why can't I open up my heart and cut these BGs some slack? In fact, these unsettling feelings have been bothering me so much that I decided to turn to a professional for help. I called the Washington, D.
They referred me to Debbie Then, Ph. The first thing Dr. Then did was reassure me. According to her, I'm completely normal. It's part of being female. Then went on to explain that it's a result of the age-old culture trap that has ensnared women for generations — where we're still valued for our looks instead of for our brains, education, or sparkling personalities. Share this article via facebook Share this article via twitter Share this article via messenger Share this with Share this article via email Share this article via flipboard Copy link.
Share this article via comment Share this article via facebook Share this article via twitter. More Stories. Today's Best Discounts. Get us in your feed Like us on Facebook Follow us on Twitter. At my first job after college, my female colleagues conspired against me. They planted bottles of half-drunk booze on my desk so that it looked like I was drinking on the job. Two women were obsessed with me. They told my boss lies to get me fired. They really do hate you because of the way you look. I was once engaged to a man who ended it after his sister-in-law spread gossip about me to his family.
They threatened to cut his inheritance if he stayed with me, so he left. That broke my heart. I think her feeling was: I am the princess of this family, that woman must be eliminated. Later, after I married another man, I went through hell with my sister-in-law. That resistance other woman have towards being my friend is definitely one of the pitfalls of being attractive. Men just want to have sex with me. Who am I? That might have been my only pure friendship.
I never had any trouble getting guys, but I got bored easily and moved on. I should have taken the good ones more seriously.
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